Starting Over Strong

I never thought at this stage of life I’d be starting over. After all, I’d won, right?

We bought a home. I was married. I had been recently promoted at work. The only thing missing was the pitter-patter of little feet. I had done everything “they” said I was supposed to do.

So why am I writing this blog?

Because it all came crashing down—a wrecking ball to my seemingly perfect life.

The big D. DIVORCE.

A word I never thought would be associated with my name. But here I am, starting over at the age of 40. I wasn’t one of those who married their high school sweetheart. I took my time, and waited for the right person. Or at least, I thought he was the right person.

Caring, romantic, generous. We had a whirlwind romance, and before I knew it, we were exchanging vows in front of our friends and family.

Like any marriage, I expected teething problems, and Lord knows I was no saint. I worked hard to control my need to always have the last word. One thing that was always in the back of my head was some advice from my mother—learn to chew gum. When you feel like saying something you know you probably shouldn’t… chew gum.

But then the cracks started to show. The constant arguments, the emotional manipulation, and so many other things that I won’t list here because that’s not the purpose of this blog. This blog is about second chances, self-discovery and starting over.

Because after all the pain and heartache of the past few years—the tears, the prayers, and the perseverance—here I am. Starting over strong.

I know this journey isn’t going to be an easy one but I am determined to start over strong. It’s time for me to let go of the past and focus on creating a better future for myself. I’ve made mistakes and have faced challenges, but I refuse to let them define me. It’s like giving myself permission to move forward and leave behind all the negative thoughts and emotions that have been holding me back.

Starting over strong means taking control of my life again. It means setting goals and working towards them every day. It also means being kinder to myself, forgiving my past mistakes, and believing in my ability to overcome any obstacle.

I may not know exactly where this journey will take me, but I know that with determination and resilience, I can create a brighter future for myself.

So here’s to taking the first step towards a better life, towards starting over strong. With each word typed, I am one step closer to achieving my goals and living the life I deserve.

So if you’re reading this and feeling stuck in your own journey, know that you are not alone. You may be at day one or day one hundred, but as long as you keep pushing through the obstacle in front of you, you are making progress.

It’s ok to start over at 30, 40, 50 or even 60. It’s never too late to take control of your life and create the future you deserve.

And now I feel like I’m rambling so I’ll wrap it up here.

Here’s to starting over strong.